Thank you for sharing this. I’m right there with you! I’m 39, and yes, perimenopause is... well, let’s just say, we now understand why it sometimes felt like our mothers were turning against us. They weren’t. Instead, they were going through this hormonal storm that neither they, their mothers, nor their partners could fully understand. My heart goes out to the women of the past who didn’t have access to the Internet or resources to learn about what was happening to them. Many lost relationships with their partners and children due to this natural process that wasn’t understood or studied—largely due to medical neglect rooted in systemic bias.
This is so spot on Danii. Thanks for adding your comment here. It was my intention to dive into the analysis a bit more but ... yeah. It's just so shocking to me the medical science that we have but so little is focused on these topics, largely because women are ignored when sharing their concerns. It's like a giant gap in wellness knowlegde, particularly western medicine and I hope that future generations will have more access than we do.
They will, simply because we have voices now and can observe, record and publish our findings. A freedom women of the past were not allowed. And to share my two cents on getting through this phase, wild yam root tincture or cream it makes the "Teenage" level luteal phase aka PMS go away completely for me. My fam was looking at me sideways for a couple of months until I added it to my daily routine. Also share all info found with kids and partner like it is normal so they know and can recognize it. It takes a village!
Wow...it's like you took the Thoughts right out of my head! I'm 43, too, and fully convinced I'm in perimenopause. I just started reading (today!) a book called Menopause Manifesto and I am actually very excited to get into and discover all the things I don't know about something that so many of go through. The author (whose name I can't remember, because, brain fog) calls Menopause "puberty in reverse".
Anywho, thanks for sharing your words here as they resonate so very much with my own right now.
I'm not sure if you got lost on the internet but this post is written by a non-binary author, so the non-gendered inclusive language is very intentional. <3
Lost? No. This reader simply came across an item on his Substack feed and as a man interested in women, read it and assumed that uterus and menopause can only be used in reference to biological women, and that the author, writing in the first person and describing first-hand experience, must be a woman. How old-fashioned and naive of me!
Yet no matter how you choose to classify yourself, here you must be writing about menopausal women and yourself as a woman because neither men nor the surgically transformed male currently possess that particular organ or experience menopause. <3
There is an unfortunate dilemna as part of the english language where we often use the term "woman" to indicate one's culturally assigned gender role and we use the same term to indicate that one has female anatomy.
I fully admit to having female anatomy, but because I don't really fit into the culturally assigned gender role of a woman, I don't normally use that term to refer to myself. There are many other folks out there that have female anatomy that don't align with the gender role of a woman, and so the inclusive language is designed to refer to people with uteruses rather than people whom align with the gender role of a woman, which would include some non-binary folks and trans men.
The tongue and cheek response was a natural defense mechanism ;) I always like to assume good intention, but comment trolls are a real thing.
Thank you for sharing this. I’m right there with you! I’m 39, and yes, perimenopause is... well, let’s just say, we now understand why it sometimes felt like our mothers were turning against us. They weren’t. Instead, they were going through this hormonal storm that neither they, their mothers, nor their partners could fully understand. My heart goes out to the women of the past who didn’t have access to the Internet or resources to learn about what was happening to them. Many lost relationships with their partners and children due to this natural process that wasn’t understood or studied—largely due to medical neglect rooted in systemic bias.
This is so spot on Danii. Thanks for adding your comment here. It was my intention to dive into the analysis a bit more but ... yeah. It's just so shocking to me the medical science that we have but so little is focused on these topics, largely because women are ignored when sharing their concerns. It's like a giant gap in wellness knowlegde, particularly western medicine and I hope that future generations will have more access than we do.
They will, simply because we have voices now and can observe, record and publish our findings. A freedom women of the past were not allowed. And to share my two cents on getting through this phase, wild yam root tincture or cream it makes the "Teenage" level luteal phase aka PMS go away completely for me. My fam was looking at me sideways for a couple of months until I added it to my daily routine. Also share all info found with kids and partner like it is normal so they know and can recognize it. It takes a village!
TIA <3 <3 <3
Wow...it's like you took the Thoughts right out of my head! I'm 43, too, and fully convinced I'm in perimenopause. I just started reading (today!) a book called Menopause Manifesto and I am actually very excited to get into and discover all the things I don't know about something that so many of go through. The author (whose name I can't remember, because, brain fog) calls Menopause "puberty in reverse".
Anywho, thanks for sharing your words here as they resonate so very much with my own right now.
The puberty in reverse lands. I was chatting with my partner last night, comparing the feels to what I remember of puberty and it's very similar :/
"Folks with uteruses"? You mean women, don't you?
I'm not sure if you got lost on the internet but this post is written by a non-binary author, so the non-gendered inclusive language is very intentional. <3
Lost? No. This reader simply came across an item on his Substack feed and as a man interested in women, read it and assumed that uterus and menopause can only be used in reference to biological women, and that the author, writing in the first person and describing first-hand experience, must be a woman. How old-fashioned and naive of me!
Yet no matter how you choose to classify yourself, here you must be writing about menopausal women and yourself as a woman because neither men nor the surgically transformed male currently possess that particular organ or experience menopause. <3
https://duckduckgo.com/?t=ffab&q=uterus+implanted+in+man&ia=web
PS I’ve always considered “male menopause” a non sequitur and always will.
There is an unfortunate dilemna as part of the english language where we often use the term "woman" to indicate one's culturally assigned gender role and we use the same term to indicate that one has female anatomy.
I fully admit to having female anatomy, but because I don't really fit into the culturally assigned gender role of a woman, I don't normally use that term to refer to myself. There are many other folks out there that have female anatomy that don't align with the gender role of a woman, and so the inclusive language is designed to refer to people with uteruses rather than people whom align with the gender role of a woman, which would include some non-binary folks and trans men.
The tongue and cheek response was a natural defense mechanism ;) I always like to assume good intention, but comment trolls are a real thing.